Over the past few weeks I have been working on a series of
blog posts. A topic that is not talked
about a great deal but that I have learned is an important skill for everyone who advocates within the health care system. The “Art of Complaining.”
I strongly believe that most of my adult life I have been
preparing to be a patient advocate and a caregiver. That seems odd given that before our
diagnosis a little over nine years ago I had almost no involvement in health
care. Let me explain.
In my entire professional care I have found myself in management
positions with very little line authority (direct reports). I have been an "influencer" but not in "command." Only on rare occasions, in my career, have I had a large staff reporting to me that I could delegate work to. I have usually been in situations where I have to "borrow" other people in the organization to get things done. You are entirely dependant on other people. I’ve mostly worked in Human Resources and as a Project Manager. These are two roles where you are usually in
a position of trying to support or enlist the support of others. Both of these roles usually force you to try
to enlist resources be it equipment, people, or time for you to be able to get
your work or project done. Many times I’ve
worked in the background, doing things that many other people didn’t have the
time to do. Over time I’ve actually
learned to enjoy the challenge. Then I had the distinction of becoming a caregiver and
having to do many of the same things that I did every day at work. Try to advocate and support a patient in a
system where I had little to know authority.
I laugh now when I look back at our first “serious”
encounters in the health care system and realize how completely clueless we
were. In every sense of the word “we
didn’t know what we didn’t know.”
Inevitably, we had some situations come up where we questioned what was happening. Some issues were small like the “attitude” we
got when we didn’t know something. Then
there were the bigger things where we felt significant pieces of information
were being withheld from us. These are
serious issues that need to be addressed…but where do you turn ? Who do you talk to? When you are new to the system you have a
difficult enough time trying to find a place to get a coffee never mind if you
have a legitimate complaint. Who is the
right person to talk to? What is the
process? No one teaches you how to do
this. However, the art of complaining is
an essential skill that every patient and caregiver needs to know. It is an essential Health Care Survival
Skill. I do not claim to have all of the
answers or a magic solution but what I wanted to do was share some of our
experiences when we had to learn how to complain - and in some cases it became a
matter of life and death. This is
important. Hopefully, from some of our
experiences there can be some lessons learned.
There may be some people who may be just starting their health care
journey and can take something from it. It
is safe to say that we have had some successes and some failures. It’s
all about learning and improving and questioning the things that need to be
questioned.
Why Complain?
The first thing I would ask anyone who feels they want to
raise an issue in health care is…”why do you want to raise the issue?” Is it to help themselves, to help others, or
are they just angry? Not everyone who
complains has noble intentions. Some
people are angry and just want to tear a strip off of anyone who will
listen. I’ve encountered this many
times. I get it. I’ve been there, but it’s not
constructive. There are many blog posts
I have written, that have never been published, and that were definitely written in
anger. I was able to convey my feelings
and write them down and “purge” them. It
works for me. Others may have different
coping mechanisms. Going to the gym,
music, confiding in a trusted friend.
They can all be legitimate means of “letting off some steam” in a way
that will not jeopardize a relationship with a health care provider who you may
need to rely on in the future.
If you want to address a concern or go through the formal
complaints process always ask yourself…”Why am I doing this?” “Am I being part of the solution or am I
contributing to the problem?” “What do I
hope to accomplish?” These are important
questions to ask as I have encountered many people who have less than genuine
intentions when they complain, or write a nasty letter, vent on facebook, or go to the
media. If you are on a personal mission
of self-promotion…just stop it. You’re not helping. This comment is directed at myself as much as
anyone as I have asked these questions of myself many times.
It is vitally important that “real” issues be addressed. This is how change
happens. Many positive changes can start
out as a simple complaint from a patient or family member. That is why it is so important when we decide
to “take on” the system that we do so in an effective manner. Being effective in an organization that you
have little to no authority is not easy and we need every tip and trick
possible. This is why I want to share
some of our experiences. I know there
are many out there who have their own ways of “getting things done.” The experiences I share are just a few
examples.
...next post...Part 2: Informal Complaints